I Broke Up With My Boyfriend Today. But What Did I Learn About Love?

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I broke up with my long distance partner today.

We have been doing long distance for 13 months, if I remember right.

But we had to end it.

It was mutual.

It didn’t end up messy.

We ended it cause we were having migration issues.

I don’t blame him for not wanting to come to Australia anymore.

But what did I learn about love from my end?

1. Having self-respect and self-love is important

Before I went into this relationship, I made sure I love myself for who I am, and fully respect myself that I have my own differences. That I am worthy of love. But over everything, self-respect is most important.

2. Self-talk is important. Tell myself I am worthy and enough each day

I tell myself that I am capable, and I am a beautiful person with unique views and characteristics. I don’t go into a relationship just to ‘fill that void’ in myself. I go into a relationship, so I can build on what I already have accomplished in my own self. Never go into a relationship just because I want to fill what’s missing inside of me. That isn’t good.

3. God has a better plan for me to meet someone better

Just because one door closed, it doesn’t mean another won’t open. I believe God will guide me to meeting someone better. He will always open doors and close doors in my life. I just have to patient and not rush into things. While I’m single, it gives me time and opportunity to build on myself not just emotionally, but physically and mentally too.